Opposite sex best friends

Nowadays it’s dubious to see a men and a women have a clean, untarnished friendship. With that said, can men and women really be friends or better said, can they be best friends?

This is conceivably the issue with a high percentage of couples today. Therefore I ask, can opposite genders really maintain a strict friendship. It’s permitted to have a best friend, what becomes a problem is having a best friend of the opposite sex. The thought of two people hooking up, or something simply not looking right, always comes up in relationships.

Boys will be boys that’s why this blog is only for fully grown men. I’ll get to the point and take off from there. Yes, it’s possible to have a best friend of the opposite sex. Many factors do come in between but if you’re asking yourself if it can be done, well let me hit a few key points, thoughts and examples.

Machismo is a very common lifestyle for Latin men all over the world. Yet again, machismo has transcendent worldwide. The belief that “I wear the pants and I’m the man of the house, therefore you do what I say,” type of mentality. It’s specifically this type of men that can’t see their female partners in a healthy friendship with the opposite sex. Their DNA doesn’t function that way, not by choice but because they were raised that way.

Usually people get into relationships and you’ll never hear from them again, that’s because people try to avoid jeopardizing their new relationship. But what happens to the best friend when you’re in a relationship. Where do you leave the person who’s been there when you needed someone to listen to your problems and complaints. I’m talking about opposite gender best friends. Are you suppose to shut them out and erase them from your life in order to keep your new boyfriend/girlfriend happy? If this is what you’ve done in the past, you’re probably a terrible friend.

Every relationship should have 100 percent trust in the beginning. Obviously as the bad choices accumulate, the percentage in your trust scale begins to decline. Despite all this, opposite sex friendships should not jeopardize anyone because your relationship should always have 100 percent trust. If you’ve made bad choice after bad choice, you’ve simply put yourself in a bad position.

I personally have a female best friend, I call her my diary because I’m allowed to confess my entire life without being judged. The person I go to when I need someone to listen or give me advice. Their’s more pros than cons in these relationships, you get all the inside information on the opposite sex. As questionable as it might seem to certain people, the line of respect is always drawn. No one should doubt your ability to make the right choices even when you’re in an uncomfortable situation. Reason why, because at the end of the day the call is always yours.

Finding that opposite sex best friend isn’t a simple task, that friend that likes you for who you are and not for what you have. No, you shouldn’t have to pick and choose between friends and relationships. On the contrary, your partner and yourself have to respect if a friendship was already established prior to the existence of your current or future relationship. Remember that this is only my opinion and you might disagree with me completely which is okay.

We can say this is the adult way of observing this dilemma. As confusing as it might appear, this problem seems to keep going on today in the 21st century. Ridiculous? yes it is but what can you do when people fail to understand that we live in a new time and era.

A best friend symbolizes a special bond and connection. Doesn’t necessarily mean you as boyfriend or girlfriend can’t compensate for everything that goes on in the relationship. We all need room and venting space at times, that’s why best friends were made. I’ve personally surround myself with woman because I love to know what’s going on in the female brain, my female friends might agree when I say that I’m always one or two steps ahead of the game. This has all been possible due to the fact that I have a female best friend and very close special women in my life.

The machismo mentality is old fashion but old habits die hard as some might say. Every relationship should have equal or close to equal pull. Insecurities are a sign of weakness in a person. No one should make you feel uncomfortable because what’s yours is yours and no one can take that away. If there’s one thing I’ve learned, is the fact that when people have malice intent there’s no holding them back. If your boyfriend or girlfriend wants to cheat on you, they will find a way to do it even if you believe you got everything under control.

The problem has never been having a best friend of the opposite sex. The problem will always be that you’re dating someone with insecurities and a machismo mentality. You might not believe it but people can actually change. When someone wants to keep you in their life, they will find a way to change over a period of time of course. If they choose not to, your answer is right there in front of you.

There’s a difference between an existing best friend and a new emerging best friend which might be a little more difficult to understand or justify. It’s okay to make new friends, what will always matter here is the amount of trust handed out. If you can’t deal with it, perhaps you’re in the wrong relationship.

Embrace your opposite sex best friend but always remember that a line has to be drawn. People in this situation already know this and understand that it’s not worth loosing a friendship over a bad decision. “Why can’t we be friends, why can’t we be friends!!!”

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Coupon date

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Coupon date

Living in Los Angeles could mean more than one thing around the world. When people hear the cities name, their eyes twinkle like Puss and boots eye’s when he tries to get his way. With that said, living in Los Angeles or in any major city in the country comes with certain stipulations. For example, never take a girl out on a date with a Living Social, Groupon or any type of coupon that will pay for the bill, so we thought.

A couple of months ago, I posted the question whether it was okay for a guy to take a girl on a date using a coupon. The feedback was overwhelming and surprising. “Ladies, what would you say if a guy took you out on a date and paid with a coupon?” I asked. A few answered exactly the way I expected them to answer. “Not with me he better not,” said one of the girls who answered the question. Despite that answer, it was the many who answered quite the opposite that caught my eye. “Smart man,” and “he’s a keeper,” were answers that stood out from the rest.

If there was one thing that most of the men and women could agree on, it was the fact that no man should use a coupon on a first date. I can definitely concur with that point of view. I can’t imagine taking a woman out to dinner and paying with a coupon, “Don’t worry baby, I got this,” (Bam! take out a coupon.) There’s nothing wrong with the idea of doing it, we simply have to understand that on a first date it would probably give the wrong impression. Regardless, that situation would never compare to some of the things some men do on dates. Take for example this guy I know, (no names you know the rules) when ever he goes on dates, he tends to ask the girl to pay for her own half of the bill. The man is economical as well, (yea right!) he might think that but in all honesty, I think we call it cheap.

Back to the coupons

We established a few things:

  1. Never use a coupon on a first date
  2. Never ask your date to pay
  3. if you use a coupon don’t act like you’re a high roller (Bam! I got this)

Men, in case you were wondering, women understand that times are tough, that money doesn’t come easy. The women who usually understand just that, are the ladies who know what hard earned money looks like. I’m not talking about the free loading, gold diggers, ketchup on my fries type, who love the high life at no extra cost. However, there’s certain things you should know before you decide to take a lady out on a coupon date. First and foremost, you should let her know that you bought a coupon because that’s exactly what you’re doing. In case some of you are not aware, what these sites do, is sell you a cheaper meal or deal in advanced. I’m sure you’ll already knew that because I have the brightest followers and I know only people with high IQ’s read my stuff.

Make it smooth buddy, learn the ropes to the point where it will be as easy as butter sliding on a piece of toast. “Look at here beautiful, I, yes, I just bought the most amazing deal (leave the word coupon out) and I would love to spend some quality time with you.” I’m not pursuing you to use those exact lines, in case it comes down to it please make sure you give me credit, (I hope you know I’m just kidding.) Besides the coupon and date, there is something that is crucial if you’re trying to take a girl out on a coupon date. The one rule that can’t be broken an if you do, perhaps you don’t deserve a second chance, go under a rock and never come back out, alright I’m exaggerating. That rule is to provide the best conversation possible, it means blow her mind away to the point she forgets the existence of that coupon.

There’s no point in being economical, smart and know how to manage your money the best way possible if you’re boring. If you can’t talk about anything besides your earnings and dog, please don’t event mention the coupon and simply pay out of pocket. Trust me when I say, “You don’t want to be the boring, coupon guy.” I’ve never tried using a coupon on a date, I’ve practically never considered the idea, I thought it would make any men look cheap. Albeit with all the positive feedback I’ve received why not try it but in my case I won’t say anything, I’m simply going to take it out of my pocket and say here you go. I would like to see the reaction such act would receive, I’m practically sitting here imagining what would happen. Before I let you guys go, the only time you’re allowed to use a coupon, is when you’re married. By that time you’re basically trying to save every dollar, times are hard for married couple who deal with rent, utilities, bills and other important things.

Don’t be afraid boys, print those coupons and make sure you use them correctly on the right girl. If I were you, I would print one out from Bevmo in order to meet some of the demands these high maintenance woman impose, “Wine and dine” all day my friends. Thank you for reading, please feel free to share, just click on the icon below and you’re done. Follow me on Twitter: @mlianres10