Life is an ongoing journey that many people take for granted. We live in a country where the opportunities to succeed are infinite, yet we close our eyes and walk not knowing in what direction we’re heading. Today I’ve decided to sit, relax and let my words tell a story; why you might ask? Because I’m a leader, it’s been in my DNA since I was a child. As a soccer player I probably wasn’t the most skilled as I’ve had the opportunity to play with amazing players, my forte was being the most vocal. It wasn’t long ago when I doubted myself and my abilities to do great things in life, the exact same things I had promised myself I would accomplish as a young boy. My biggest fear was to be that guy with a lot of talent who never made it. I wasn’t ready to be that guy, I didn’t want to be that guy, so I didn’t become that guy.
Who am I?
I’ve lived part of my life hoping for great things to happen, only to grow older every year and realize that you can’t keep hoping, you have to make hope a reality. Who am I? Not perfect, that’s for sure, yet again, who’s perfect? As the clock on my life keeps ticking, I’ve learned that in life we have to be pliable. The man I am today, is not the same man I was 10 years ago, five years ago, or even three years ago. As time passes by, I become older and wiser. Like many of the men I know, I make constant mistakes, but the point is not to live a perfect life, is to learn from every experience life throws at us. Today more then ever, I can say that we live an imperfect life, as human beings we’re destined to make mistakes, some bigger than others.
“They say that in your 20s, you’re trying to work out the man you want to be, and in your 30s, you discover who he is.”
When I first read that quote a few years ago, I paused, sat down and took a few minutes to analyze the meaning of it. Most of us picture a certain life, we set a timeline of where and how we see ourselves in the future. Never thinking that life takes it’s own course, things happen and situations constantly change. The quote has a lot of meaning to me personally as a man, it symbolizes optimism for what lies ahead for many of the male friends I know. Therefore we can say that today’s blog is to help inspire some of my male friends. Doubt is an emerging feeling we often encounter, although it only makes success that much sweeter. When you think about it, “Life is a mountain, you have to climb and climb to get to the top, once you’re up there, you’ve earned the right to enjoy the view.”
I would be lying and misleading you if I said I’ve reached the top of my mountain. On the contrary, I keep climbing, avoiding to turn back because what has already been climbed doesn’t matter as much as what is still left to be accomplish. I’ve associated myself with many successful human beings which I try to emulate in success. Let’s clear something out, success is not only measure by the reflection of financial wealth. When people usually talk about success, they think “money.” Wealth is part of success, but it’s not what defines a successful person.
I know plenty of wealthy people who have financial success but lack in other areas of life. Think more in the terms of success as a human being, are you successful? Have you succeeded in life all around? We all seek success in different ways, nonetheless we all seek success in one particular field, LOVE. I must admit that this is perhaps the toughest field to succeed in. You can make all the money in the world and it wouldn’t guarantee you success in love. It’s amazing to see two persons madly in love, it’s inspiring to see that it truly exist, that it’s not a myth, that you could be successful in this area. I know what you’re thinking, No, I’m not in love, but I know the feeling.
Back to the quote
If I’ve learned something thus far in my life, it’s to be human, to be determined, to accept when I’m wrong and keep it moving. My focus remains to reach the top of the mountain, enjoy the view from new heights. I’ve never met a person who at one point hasn’t felt like the world is ending or like if the world is coming down on them. At one point I was also that person, my world had completely stopped, at least in my head it had. I was laid off from my job, dumped by my ex girlfriend and having a conundrum within the family all in a month. (I’m not going to tell you about my break up, even though I believe it would make an amazing blog)
No one should ever give up on goals and dreams because you’ve hit a few road bumps. What you are allowed to do, is to reshape your goals in order to keep climbing your mountain. The man I want to become is a man successful in life, financially and as a person. I know a lot of the man out there reading this can relate, can take a deep breath and say, “Yup.” If it wasn’t for the circumstances I encountered in the past, you probably wouldn’t be reading this. I quite frankly don’t know what I would be doing in life, nor do I think about it too much. Like rapper Eminem said, “ I guess I had to go to that place, to get to this one.” I’ve become this aspiring writer, seeking the opportunity to reach new places. If you would’ve asked me five years ago if I planned on writing, I would have answered, “No way Jose.” Okay, I’m not saying that I’m this big shot writer because I’m not (yet) but with time I would like to one day hear, “Hey man, that Moises Linares is a great writer,” I set my bar high therefore I work at it even harder.
The man I’m working on now, is the man I want to become today, tomorrow and for the rest of my life. Gentleman card always intact and always hungry to keep improving in all areas of life. Who am I? I’m just another down to earth average Joe seeking triumph in a few areas of life. If you’re wondering why I’m talking about all this? Is because I know that I’m only one of millions trying to get to the same place. In the case of many of my men, It’s a journey to become the best man we can possibly become. For some reason every time I picture myself in the future, I see myself in a slim fitted suit, what can I say, I love suits.
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Winners can’t be Quitters
“The Only thing guaranteed at birth is DEATH, everything else you have to earn!”
Another week has passed by and once again I can only hope that all of you are doing great. Next week brings a fresh start at becoming healthier, a chance to redefine our goals and to live life a day at a time. It’s amazing waking up to emails and text with topics to talk about each week, please keep them coming.
It’s a rule of life that “Winners can’t be quitters and quitters can’t be winners.” Life is full of up and downs, we each have our own battles and struggles to overcome. Have you ever asked yourself, “Maybe this is not for me? Maybe I’ve made the wrong choice and it’s time to move on.” In this life we have all encountered a time when we believe we are heading in the wrong direction. A time when people want to make you feel that you’re no good. That perhaps you don’t have what it takes to make it in whatever field you’re trying to shine in.
Don’t be a fool
When I was just a boy, I heard those words repeatedly, “You’re no good and you won’t make it.” To some people I wasn’t good enough to graduate High School, today I ask myself, “I wasn’t good enough to graduate High School?” The truth is that I probably didn’t have the best role models, my older cousins weren’t the best examples. For whatever reason, they chose to take a path that led them to hard moments and struggles they regret today. For their sake, I’m glad to say they’ve changed their life’s. Nonetheless, the choices made by my older cousins led everyone to believe that I would also fail. For many people High School is pretty basic, it’s something you have to accomplish. In my family it was quite the contrary, you were expected to work and help your family because that’s the way things are done back in Central America.
From the moment I entered middle school, I was on a mission to keep a promise I made to my mother, to go to college. Middle school was difficult, by the time I entered 6th to 8th grade, I had already attended four elementary schools. I refused to transfer schools, therefore I sometimes found myself walking three miles in order to make it to school early in the morning when my mother didn’t have money for my bus fair. High school was no different, I travelled even further using public transportation, a 15 mile bus ride got me to school each morning. I was on a mission to complete school and prove everyone wrong, I was not going to settle for less than a high school degree. In the process, I met great teachers I still keep in touch with today, Mr. Edwards my English teacher and Ms. Gibbs, my Spanish teacher. Both very influential in my education then and today.
Is normal to fall over and over during your journey in life, how fast you get up, determines how strong minded you really are. There’s no destiny in this life, at least that’s my opinion, even the richest can fall when the wrong choices are made. Yes, some of us are born more fortunate than others, things are handed down by parents who’ve worked extremely hard to provide their children with better opportunities. Withal, no one is really destined, we are all indeed predestined. We make the choices and we pave our own road, things change and we make sudden turns, but in the end they are still choices made by us. Some people knock on one door an it opens up, others knock on hundreds of them before seeing one open. My biggest fear in life has always been to be the guy with all the talent that never made it. Therefore I keep knocking and knocking even when my knuckles are bruised and bleeding. I’ve fallen more times than a person that can’t snowboard but I know how to get up, each time I get up faster and stronger. Disappointments are part of the journey, falling shouldn’t prevent any of us from dreaming big. We create our own road in this life, at least in the United States we are lucky to say that’s the case.
I over came high school and college, I’m after bigger and better dreams today, a possible master’s in English, Latin history or even social media itself. You can’t stop dreaming because people or life has put a halt on your journey. You learn how to take detours and keep moving in order to get to your destination. People will let you down over and over, that is something you can count on. However, no one can let you down as much as yourself. If you’re a quitter, we are probably not friends, quitting and giving up is not in my DNA. The days where the feeling of giving up emerge, always come around, yet when you’ve been a fighter all your life, it’s simply not an option. We’ll own a fire, sometimes it’s only a spark, other times it’s a flame that can’t be extinguished. Which one do you currently possess? If you’re on the other side, maybe it’s time you become a fighter because “Winners can’t be quitters and quitters can’t be winners,” it’s a rule of life.
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